Frequently Asked Questions for Parents
I think my son is too young to make a commitment to attend college seminary and study
for the priesthood. Would it be better for him to major in something like business
to fall back on and take a minor in Catholic Studies or Philosophy?
Ask yourself this: If your son said that he wanted to be a pre-med student at Seton
Hall and then go to medical school so that he could become a cardiologist, would you
worry that he is too young? You would most likely think to yourself that he has time
to discover during college whether he really feels called to be a physician. You have
probably known at least one person who changed majors in college, maybe even yourself
back in the day. The fact is college seminary is just like this. Men enter with varying
degrees of certainty that they have a priestly calling. Some men in college seminary
will discern that they are not called to the priesthood and withdraw from the program
at some point in their formation. This is fine. All your (arch) diocese expects of
your son is that he seriously and prayerfully engage in the formation program and
use that experience to discern whether he has a calling to Christ's Holy Priesthood.
The Church offers your son the freedom to say "yes," "no," or "not yet." Whatever
your son discerns, he will leave college seminary a better Christian gentleman.
That seems like a rather weighty decision for my son to make. I am worried that he
will not get it right. Would you say something about this concern?
Certainly. Discerning a call to the priesthood involves God, the seminarian, and the
Church. Your son may prayerfully believe that God is calling him to Christ's Holy
priesthood. The Church for her part, through your son's mentor priest and spiritual
director at the seminary, as well as your son's bishop and vocation director, will
ultimately affirm or disconfirm whether what is in your son's heart is from God. Also,
remember that this process may take several years, and it is not until at least the
seventh year of formation when, as a major (graduate level) seminarian, the seminarian's
bishop calls the man to Holy Orders. In other words, there is a lot of time!
How may I, as a parent, best support my son in the college seminary?
First, pray for your son. We can get caught up in the moment and forget that the Church,
with the inspiration of the Holy Spirit over more than 2000 years, has developed the
program of priestly formation and discernment process. Pray that your son has the
courage to immerse himself in the process and that he have perseverance to continue
over the long haul. Second, be supportive of him. Third, give him the space and the
permission to discover how God is calling him, however that might be.
What if my son completes college seminary with a B.A. in Catholic Theology and decides
that he is not called to the priesthood. How can he use this major?
Men who complete their degree and discern that they do not have a call to the priesthood
have several options available to them. St. Andrew's College Seminary has had men
go on to teach, attend graduate school and law school, enter the business world, and
become lay missionaries.
Does my son need to be certain that he has a vocation to the priesthood to attend
college seminary?
No. In fact, most men entering college seminary are far from certain that they have
a vocation to the priesthood. What they all share, however, is a desire to take the
time to discern whether the Lord is calling them to the Catholic priesthood.
I am concerned that my son will be "sheltered" from regular university students. Will
my son have the opportunity to interact with college students who are not seminarians?
Your son will have regular opportunities to interact with non-seminarians. Most of
the students in the university core required courses that your son will be taking
are not seminarians. A seminarian has open electives as a part of his curriculum in
which he can take courses in other disciplines. In addition, all college seminarians
are encouraged to participate in the various extracurricular activities on campus.
In recent years the college seminarians have participated in activities such as intramural
sports (e.g., soccer, basketball, volleyball, and flag football), the university symphony
orchestra, the university chorus, campus ministry, SHU for Life, and the Rock Climbing
Club. In addition, a college seminarian has also served as representative for the
School of Theology on the University Senate.
May my son take on a minor or even a double major?
A college seminarian whose academic progress is exemplary may take a minor or a second
major after discussion with a seminarian's formation advisor, the college seminary
rector, the academic dean, and the seminarian's vocation director.
Assuming my son graduates with his degree and discerns that he is called to the priesthood
and the major seminary, does he automatically go on to continue his studies at Seton
Hall's Graduate School of Theology at Immaculate Conception Seminary (ICS)?
The seminarian's bishop typically decides where a college seminarian will do his graduate
level (major) theology seminary. That may or may not be ICS. Seminarians of the Archdiocese
of Newark typically attend ICS for their graduate studies and formation.
Will my son be able to come home on weekends? Also, will we be able to visit him?
Approximately once per month, when there are no other scheduled breaks, the college
seminary has a "free-weekend" during which all seminarians are free to leave the house
for the weekend. Families may visit St. Andrew's Hall as guests when no formation
activities are scheduled.
Is there a dress code for college seminarians?
The college seminary encourages each seminarian to witness the value of simplicity
in his life and to show respect for others in his attire. As such, it has a dress
code for events ranging from daily Mass and community prayer to community conferences
and trips off campus. Formal attire consists of a black suit, white shirt, black necktie,
black shoes and black socks. Men generally wear casual attire to their classes.
My son is a sophomore at another college. Does he need to spend four years at the
college seminary?
St. Andrew's College Seminary has accepted transfer students from various colleges
and majors. There are young men who, after completing some portion of their undergraduate
studies, decide they would like to enter college seminary. A man who has completed
his first one or two years of undergraduate study in another major or at another university
or college is typically able to compete his undergraduate major requirements in catholic
theology and graduate "on time." This may require that he take one or two courses
during summer school. Note, however, that discernment is not measured solely by the
number of credits completed but also how the seminarian grows in his faith and experiences
the call of Christ in his life.